From my early teen years to the beginning of adulthood, I thought I knew what real love was. I thought that love was based on two things: feelings, and appearance. Feelings, because it is so easy to love others when I’m in the “mood” to be kind and affectionate. Appearance, because I thought that true love was based on physical attraction. I felt like I needed to look a certain way in order for someone to love me. I knew that this was a lie, but I believed it as if it were true.
Fake love. It comes in all kinds of forms. Whether it be money or an addiction, fake love is everywhere. It creeps into our lives little by little. Once it captivates our attention, we can either reject it being fake love or receive it as if it were true. The problem with receiving fake love is that it promises us a sense of comfort, but it ends up leaving us with a sense of hopelessness.
I can recall a time in my life where I had fallen in love, “fake love” that is. It was in the form of an addiction. It began as an innocent lifestyle change but turned into my worst nightmare. In three months, I had lost 25 pounds due to an unhealthy obsession with working out and eating less. My body began to deteriorate. I was down to my lowest weight. People began to notice a change in my appearance and asked if there was anything wrong, but I didn’t think there was.
I found a picture of myself yesterday from two years ago. This was not me at my lowest weight, but it frightens me how unhealthy I was. At the time the picture was taken, I thought I looked great, but I was very obsessed with exercising and restricting my caloric intake. I was in love with the idea of being extremely thin because then…someone may actually take up an interest in me.
The issue with this mindset is that promises false hope. It eludes to the fact that love is based on outer appearance, which is a lie from the enemy.
Fast-forward two years, I am not the same size but I am so much more content with who I am. Not because of my outer appearance or my weight, but because of my faith in the Lord. He has helped me realize was true love really is, in it’s simplest form.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Is there anything in your life that is considered to be “fake love”? If so, consider how love is described in this scripture passage in order to combat those false perceptions of what true love really is.