If someone were to ask me, “are you insecure?” I might say “of course not! I’m happy with who I am, why should I feel insecure?” I might try to hide the fact that sometimes insecurity gets the best of me. I sense insecurity coming on whenever I begin to try hard for others to notice me. I see it in the way I post a picture of myself, when I’m feeling insecure or lonely, just to see if people will acknowledge me. It’s sad, because the Lord knows my worth, and He wants me to embrace who He created me as. This doesn’t mean He wants me to boast about my appearance or attributes, but He simply wants me to see myself through His eyes. Once I begin to recognize my worth in Him, everything else will fall into place. The cravings I tend to have for attention will start to diminish once I recognize who I am in Him.
Insecurity comes in all kinds of forms. It may be hard to see at first, but it can actually have dominion over us if we allow it to. When we read God’s Word and realize the Truth about who we are, insecurity no longer has the power to rule over us. We are set free from the bondage of insecurity because of what Jesus did on our behalf.
An area of my life where insecurity creeps in, is when I worry about what others think about me. It’s something I struggle with on a daily basis, because I’m so afraid of being rejected. A bible verse that combats fear of rejection is found in Psalm 27:1, it reads “The LORD is my light and my salvation–whom should I fear?”
If you struggle with insecurity, I want to point you in the right direction-God’s Word, which is the Truth about who you are and who you were designed to become.
“How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand; when I awake, I am still with You.” (Psalm 139:17-18)
The first thing we need to do when we feel insecure, is to accept who we are and how God made us. Although we may never understand why He gave us certain characteristics, both physically and emotionally, He thoughtfully crafted us together to make us be “us!” There is no one else like you on this earth with the exact same DNA, thinking patterns, etc. The Lord purposely gave you a unique make up so that you would differ from everyone else.
Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.” -Matthew 10:29-31
Recognize that you are not a mistake. People can be harsh, they can tell you that you aren’t anything special or valuable, but God doesn’t think that way about you or anyone else. He loves you so much, that He sent His son Jesus Christ to this earth, to pay for our sins so that we may have eternal life rather than eternal separation. If we accept this as the Truth, God says we are His children. “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” -Romans 5:8.
Once we recognize who we are in Christ, we can understand His divine purpose for our lives is no mistake. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” –Jeremiah 29:11.
When our identity in Christ and our purpose go hand in hand, we no longer tend to seek for approval. Isn’t that a wonderful thing? To begin to see our eyes shift off of the world and it’s idea of a “successful life” and turn our eyes on Jesus, Who is our true success.
Each time I catch myself in an insecure state, I often begin to feel sorrowful in my heart knowing that the only way I can fill the “void” in my heart is when I recognize who I am in Him.
Let’s begin our days lost in God’s Word, and in prayer so that we can grasp a better sense of who we are, and what our purpose is in the Lord. If we start to see ourselves the way God sees us, we won’t need to worry about our insecurities because the Lord has given us the ability to overcome them with His Truth, love and grace.