The ‘What If’ Factor

What if you lost your job today? Would you still have the same level of confidence or self-worth?

What if you ended up losing a loved one? Would you still have the ability to receive or give away love?

What if you ended up with everything you could ever dream of having, lost it all, and ended up with nothing? Would you still believe that life is beautiful and fragile?

I’m not asking these questions to degrade you by any means, but rather to look at the areas of each and everyone of our lives and consider what were placing our core values in.

Time is valuable, money is valuable, people are valuable.

But what if you lost all of that. What if you began to realize that what you thought you needed, was actually something that was hindering you from having a relationship with God?

Some of you might be saying, I don’t need a relationship with God. I’m perfectly fine with my life the way it is. My health is good, my relationship is good, my friends are good, so I’m good. Okay, I understand that everything is good right now, but “what if’ you lost it all? Then what would you do, or Who would you turn to?

There have been moments in my life where I thought I lost everything. My first ever “loss” was when I learned that my parents were splitting up and I couldn’t understand why. I remember my mom telling me and I, being 3 years old was devastated. “Why is daddy leaving mom?” She reassured me that I would see him again, but I was still so confused as to why what was happening was.

Now, 20 years old, and realizing that my parents splitting up resulted in gaining two wonderful new parents and siblings, whom I have learned so much from each one of them, I count my first “loss” as “gain”.

And when I lost my best friend in the second grade because she was leaving to go to a private school, my heart was saddened. “Why is she leaving me?” I would ask myself, but somehow I knew that God would still allow us to keep close connections with each other. And He did, and also had placed new friends in both of our lives.

In high school, I faced multiple losses. A sudden break-up with my boyfriend at the time, several fall-outs with friends, and having lost the ability to see myself through God’s eyes-and was lead down the path of death through an eating disorder.

It is amazing though, to look back at all the things I once saw as total losses,total devastations… and to now see how God has used these times of grieving as a way to fall into His arms and receive His love.

Phillipians 3:8-Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ

If you can imagine yourself as a prisoner, just you-and a jail cell, would you call on the name of the Lord? I’ve never had the experience of being in a jail, but have felt imprisoned on my own thoughts- ‘your fat, your ugly, no body loves you’ ‘you have no friends, you’re not smart enough, just quit while your ahead’ ‘it’s all down-hill from here, look at how many wrong turns you’ve made already’ ‘you should have had things figured out a while ago, now you have to start all over again’

The voice of the one who whispers these lies, is the one who wants to destroy man-kind. Many of us would say we deal with insecurities of some kind, but the One who loves us so deeply would never-ever say these things to us, to make us feel guilty.

Before I wrap it up, let’s consider some of the things that God says about you, so that you can have peace and rest over any of the “what if’s” life may throw at you.

Psalm 34:19- The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all.

Psalm 59:1- Deliver me from my enemies, O God; be my fortress against those who are attacking me.

Thessalonians 5:23-24- May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. 24 The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it.

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